They provide comfort and support, which are reliable and durable. We have the reality of friendships with our brothers and sisters. Our new lives have seen the dawning of true hope that has a solid base upon reality. We are brothers in that we truly have been men on a dead-end path. Others of us held onto some shred of hope that said “Better times are just around the comer,” but it only kept us from confronting how disastrous our lives had become. Some of us said to ourselves, “Life is just drab, I’d better get used to it.” We may have slowly changed our definition of normal to mean a hopeless existence. Hope was a casualty for many of us in our life of chaos and extremes. “Wait’ll next year!” is the favorite cry of baseball fans, football fans, hockey fans, and gardeners. Help me give myself the freedom to experiment, explore, and learn who I am and who I can be in my relationships. Guide me as I learn to develop healthy, intimate, sharing relationships with people. Help me place value on how I feel being around certain people. Although we may have to struggle through shame and learn to own our power, we can learn to spend our valuable hours and days with the people we enjoy and choose to be with. We can decide how we want to spend our days and hours. We are free to choose how much time we spend with those people we can’t always choose to be around, such as relatives. ![]() We are free to choose friends, dates, and spouses. We all need to interact with people we might prefer to avoid, but we don’t have to force ourselves through long-term or intimate relationships with these people. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we’re talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. The Language of Letting Go – Codependency I pray that this seeing will produce a change in my personality. ![]() I pray that I may see God with the eyes of faith. We can only see God with the eyes of faith, but this kind of seeing produces a great change in our way of living. But God’s power cannot manifest itself in personalities unless those personalities make His power available by their faith. All miracles happen in the realm of personality and all are caused by and based on belief in God’s never-failing power. In response to your belief, God can work a miracle in your personality. God cannot do His work because of unbelief. To see God with eyes of faith is to cause God’s power to manifest itself in the material world. ![]() Let us have a purpose for each day and let us make that purpose for something greater than just ourselves. You have received so much from this program that you should have a vision that gives your life a direction and a purpose that gives meaning to each new day. Each day you will have something to work for. Live for some purpose greater than yourself. You should be ready and willing to carry the A.A. ~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How It Works, pg. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn’t think so.” “So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. God put the people in my life to help me do that and, through my working the Twelve Steps, I am becoming the whole person I wish to be and, for that, I am deeply grateful.Ĭopyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. After five years of sobriety I had to deal with a heavy dose of fear. for me has been the courage to take action, which I can do with God’s help. Alcohol made life easier to face, but the time came when alcohol was no longer an alternative to fear. Then we shall need to find both the courage and grace to deal constructively with whatever fears remain. We shall have to try for all the freedom from fear that is possible for us to attain. ![]() The problem of resolving fear has two aspects.
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